Marrying a stranger isn’t naive in India. Arranged marriage is still a part of the modern society which eventually leads you to share your bed with a stranger on the very first night of your married life! And as a customary, you, as a new bride, are pushed in your husband’s room and then all the awkwardness falls in. “What will I do?” “How will it go?” “Do I owe it to him for any reason?” “What does he expect”? And there is no stopping to your thought chain for the first night!
Girl! If the mere thought of your wedding first night leaves you in the dilemma of whether “to do” or not, then it’s time you take a halt! It’s important for you to understand that first night sex is not a mandatory thing. Set your preferences straight. You are in no way bound to do it.
Be clear and specific to your partner in what you believe in and what you desire for. Even if it means not having sex on your wedding first night. Don’t let any pressure compel you for it. The courtship period gives you all the opportunity to be clear about yourself and about him too. Keep him aware of your comfort zone.
Be patient and let the relationship (and intimacy) evolve eventually. Spend time with each other. You surely don’t want to do it for the “sake” of a person whom you barely know yet. Respect each other by giving all the time needed.
After having done with a relay of wedding rituals and being loaded with all the heavy bridal outfit and the jewellery and the rest of the accessories, having sex might be the last thing you ever wanted for your first night. Maybe that’s not the right time and it’s fine even if it’s so! You may just cuddle up and talk to each other and make the first night special. Or simply rest in each other’s arms and fall asleep talking.
The Indian shy-bride soul in an independent body of yours may wake up and force you to do it while going against your own desires. Don’t let that be. First night sex with your partner should be a part of good memories of your happily ever after. Isn’t it true girl?
Your partner might have his own expectations for the special first night. You may prefer communicating (by any means) him and getting along on the same page. After all, it’s the whole life you have to spend together!
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